If you have doubts about your mate's fidelity, don't let Valentine's Day be a day of despair. Cheating spouses can be hard to catch, and the doubt and uncertainty takes its toll. If you are in this position, Valentine's Day may be just what you've been waiting for.
Pass on the Private Detectives
Ruth Houston, a self-styled infidelity expert, suggests that using professional help to trap a wandering spouse can be expensive and result in more questions than answers. Often working under time and money constraints, private investigators can come up empty. One way you can get the drop on a philanderer is to catch him at the time of year when he almost certainly has to get in close contact with the other woman . . . Valentine's Day. A man having an affair would be in big trouble if he forgot his lover on the biggest romantic holiday of the year. This is sad to contemplate, sure, but it's also a great opportunity for you. Turn the pain into gain by catching him in the act, and do it on the day when it will send a resounding message about love and fidelity.
There's a Good Chance That Evidence Exists, and You Can Find It
If you have suspicions about your spouse's activities, there is usually evidence somewhere. If you have access to places that he or she keeps private, a quick check may give you the information you need. The trunk of a car, a briefcase, the back of a closet, credit card receipts, phone records, office drawers, coat pockets, and glove compartments might yield clues.
Your suspicions are based on something. If your spouse has changed lately and that change has sent up a red flag, Valentine's Day is a good time to start finding answers.
If your life partner has become secretive, more concerned about his or her appearance, or become more distant or even more solicitous to you without reason, you can use the coming holiday to either put your fears to rest, or get the information you need to move forward with your life.
Making the Decision to Find Out Isn't Everyone's Choice
For some people, not knowing about marital infidelity is a more comfortable choice. There are complicated circumstances in every person's life that will impact his or her decision to actively pursue answers, or take a wait and see attitude. If you suspect infidelity and want to know more about your spouse's activities, the week of Valentine's Day is a great time to begin your investigation.
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